- Posted
- Dec 28th 2008
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- Donna DeLory
I don't understand boys. At all. And I think some of my guy friends are inconsiderate pricks. Not to me, of course, because I don't put myself in a position to need someone to be considerate of me. Maybe my standards of men are too high? Not as in boyfriend material, but like, you know, the "you call yourself a man?" type.
Not sure how to explain this. Here's an example though:
Girl goes to see her male friends who just moved into a new apartment. The city is unsavory and labelled #1 in violence in the state. At the apartment are many other male friends, all of whom Girl has known for several years and gone to highschool with. It gets very late and very dark. Girl must walk about a block and a half through the parking lot to get to her car. Do any of the male friends accompany her?
Now, this is the sort of scenario that has me confused. Does a guy accompany Girl only if Girl is his girlfriend? Or does a guy accompany his female friend as a considerate, man thing to do, no matter if the relationship is platonic or not?
Opinions?
Jeffk38uk Says:
I guess its part persons personality and local situation. Personally if such a place is that dangerous, its only logical that you would accompany the girl for her safety. Can't see it any other way frankly. Although I can see how doing something like that can be construed as liking said girl from others.
I'm a guy btw.
szarancza Says:
I don't care if you're just friends with the girl or if you're married. I think it's common sense (and basic courtesy) to offer to accompany her to her car. If one of my female friends had to walk a block in the middle of the night, especially in a lousy neighborhood (like mine), I wouldn't let her walk all by herself. I'd either ask one of my guy friends to walk with her, or round up a couple of my girl friends and we'd accompany the said Girl to her car.
I honestly don't see how you could NOT offer to help, in the scenario you gave. I have a guy friend who'll walk you to your car at night even if you're parked right in front of the dorm. Maybe I'm just spoiled? I dunno. But I don't think it's even a matter of chivalry, just common sense.
Jolie Says:
I should HOPE someone would be smart and considerate enough to walk her to her car in a bad neighborhood. Now me, people don't offer to do that for because they know I can take care of myself pretty much and rarely have anyone who can stand up to the intimidation vibes I put out try to mess with me. I'm always very alert and look very confident, so I don't make a good target for the typical low-life who will pick a target by gender, assuming girls are weak.